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June 04, 2007 DESERVE DESERVEThe above word is a word I tend to abhor, or rather; I tend to abhor the manner and context in which it is quite often used. Psychiatrists love to throw this word around: you DESERVE to be happy; you DESERVE respect; you DESERVE success, love, fame, fortune, glory - what have you. Unfortunately, (because it's nice to think we all deserve a "fair-shake" in this world) when discussing this word I always return to a scene, and a line, from one of my favorite Clint Eastwood films- Unforgiven. Near the end, Clint's character- William Munny- has just taken revenge, and inevitably, gut-shot Gene Hackman's character- Little Bill Daggett- who is writhing about the floor in agony. As Daggett dies a painful and laborious death, he bemuses the fact that he does not DESERVE to die like this -- that he was building a house. Munny looks down on Daggett in that particularly sinister Eastwood sneer and says, and I quote, "Deserves ain't got nothin' ta do with it." That pretty well sums up how I feel about the word DESERVE, and how the majority of the people in this country, especially the so-called "professionals", like to use it. Again, "Deserves ain't got nothin' ta do with it." Try telling someone in the Sudan that they DESERVE happiness! Try telling a five-year-old child dieing of Cancer that they DESERVE to live! Try telling anyone who has ever lost someone close to them that their loved one did not DESERVE to die! I mean, just as a point of reference, I did not DESERVE to go through a painful divorce, and have my life and my world pulled out from under me, but that's what happened, that's life. And that's okay. There are no guarantees in this world ('cept maybe taxes and death). No one is special ( 'cept maybe the retarded and the handicapped). No one DESERVES anything! You make your own fate; you decide your own destiny. You make choices and then you live with them, as best you can; albeit they may be the wrong choices. This country, on the surface, appears to have become filled to the brim with grotesque obese people or grotesque malnourished people literally screaming about how special they are, and how much they DESERVE respect. Here's an old saying that has never gone out of style- you do not DESERVE respect, you earn it! Everyone is so impatient and so lazy - everyone wants the Hollywood body, but are not willing to go to the gym five days a week. Everyone wants money and success but is not willing to sit down and work for it. Everyone seems to want a lasting relationship that stands the test of time, but no one is willing to put forth the great amount of effort and compromise that it takes to create a lasting relationship that stands the test of time. Do you see what I'm saying? Everything good in my life has come from struggle and hard work, and I appreciate them more because of that. Fortune favors the bold. Glory fades. Stay the fight! DESERVE'S ain't got nothin' ta do with it. [Add Comment] 0 Comments |
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